What is the best thing you can do for your friend when they seem to be struggling with PPD or Depression? Answer: Be there!!! Just like with any other struggle: death, divorce, cancer, etc.. you are the friend. Your role is "FRIEND"!
Do not:
1. Wait until they are feeling better to visit or call.
2. Use 'concern' or "prayer requests" as a cover to gossip about your friends' hardship. (It will always, always return to her ears. No matter how discreet you try to be.)
3. Avoid talking about it with her. (She feels like it's written all over her forehead. You might as well 'Cowboy Up' and tackle the subject like a good friend.)
Here's what you CAN do to help.
1. CALL HER. Stop by to visit. Write her an encouraging note.
2. Pray for her. (Sincerely and discreetly)
3. Come over and HELP her out. Just hold the baby or sweep the floor or make her some tea.
4. Smile. Hug. Laugh. Cry.
5. Remind her of God's character. Remind her of God's love.
6. Make her family some meals.
7. JUST DO SOMETHING!
So many times women are scared off by other women who are encountering PPD or Depression. There is nothing to be scared of. These friends of yours that are struggling are the same people you called friends before this happened. Now it is your duty to prove you are a friend. Don't worry - you will have your own turn. We all face hardship. Different styles, but all hard.
